Heal the Hurt That Runs Your Life: Discover and Heal the Inner Issues That Destroy Love and Sabotage Your Life

When you were a young child, you were pure love. You were happy, alive and free, but you were born into a world that suppresses this state. As a result, you got hurt and you got hurt a lot.

As a little child, the only way you could explain these painful losses of love was to blame yourself. In a moment of hurt, you created the belief that you were worthless, not good enough, a failure, not worth loving, or in some other way, not okay.

This wasn't the truth, but to a little child, this was the only explanation that made any sense at the time. You then hated the very belief that you created. "No one can ever love me if I'm worthless. Worthless is a horrible way to be."

Without knowing, you created a core issue that would then sabotage the rest of your life. From that moment on, the underlying focus of your life would be to avoid this hurt. You may never notice this hurt, but it is certainly there. It determines your actions and shapes your life.

Any circumstance that reactivates this hurt is subconsciously considered to be a serious threat and must be avoided at all cost. To protect yourself from this perceived threat, you automatically fight, resist, hang on and withdraw.

This creates a state of fear, upset and tunnel vision. It destroys your ability to find solutions and it forces you to act in a way that sabotages your life. It destroys love and creates opposition and resistance against yourself.

Every area of your life that isn't working and every self-sabotaging behavior can be traced directly to the automatic, subconscious avoidance of this hurt.

Finding and healing this hurt is one of the most important things you can ever do. The first step in the healing process is to find what your hurt is.